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Q: | Madame Zoe D Ack: My girlfriend’s birthday is April 30 and mine (a libra) is October 3rd. We have quite an age difference, about 20 years. We are past the stage of totally in love, although we still are; we are at the stage of what is very much a "partnership" with arguements, finances, the whole deal. Although, we both worry that our age differences will get in the way. We have been together for a little over a year now, and I was wondering do you think that it is unhealthy or might not work out? She is always worried that with my young age of mid 20's (she's in her early 40's), that i'll get bored of her and want another woman. But I know I am her’s and want to remain that way. Do you think that there is any chance of a future together? Angelina | |||
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4/28/2006 | A: | Hi Angelina: The answer to your question will be composed of real life pragmatism and facts trimmed with some idealistic astrological foundations. Let’s start with the stars... Your girlfriend is a Taurus I and you are a Libra II. Your Taurus I woman is intense and likes to build bonds of trust and loyalty (though they don’t come easy to her). She likes to hold on to the good things she’s got (perhaps you’re one of them) but she’s not one to necessarily grasp on to them with a death grip. Although it hurts her, she believes that sometimes things crumble apart and something else will appear. You, Libra II, have your dendrites sleeping on cotton balls. Meaning that your dreamy self has a lifetime reservation in cabin 40BC on the Love Boat. 40BC (not as in your girlfriend’s age but) as in forty years Before Christ, because you tend to think in yesteryears instead of the present. While you ladies do have some astrological understructure to make it work you have to look at the nitty-gritty of the big picture and you have to fast forward to the concrete hard world. To do this, you have to get real, a behavior that's a bit foreign to Libras but which usually can be found in the appendix section (that segment usually found at the end of books) in their book of life. Recognizing the facts of a situation is hardly ever a forte of a Libra. Libras usually would rather live in a dream state even if all the alarms are going off signaling that it’s going to end up in a nightmare. I’m not saying that the relationship with your current girlfriend will end up in a nightmare. I am saying though that marking a one year anniversary doesn’t carry much weight. It's no wonder why one year anniversaries are marked by the theme of paper. So you argue about finances (were another pair of Stuart Weitzman shoes really necessary?), toiletries (do you really need to put rose petals next to her deo?), furniture (she wants to keep the comfy leather sofa but you already took it upon yourself to order a new one from Bergdorf Goodman, after all... it was on sale, a full 10% off!). Ok, so living together has become a fraction less fantastic than what you envisioned in that air castle you own in Velvet Ave, corner of Satin Street... but are your feather light feet on the ground yet? Also, let’s look at another aspect... how serious do you think your Taurus I lady is taking this relationship? Are you solely basing yourself on the fact that she’s feeling a bit insecure about the age difference? Could it be that she’s just plain jealous? Be warned that when it comes to Tauruses jealousy doesn’t necessarily equal love. Tauruses tend to have a one way street when it comes to possession. They are entitled to have it all but you can’t. While she may like you a lot she too might be looking for a way to make the noose a little looser. Tauruses like relationships but in an odd twist, some of them are mildly allergic to them. So, do you think your woman is simply insecure about you? Or could it be that she’s unsure about herself wanting to commit to you for the long haul? There’s also a chance that she might be breaking up in hives about some of your less than perfect patterns. Maybe your girlfriend is getting a little dizzy and needs a break. After all, Libra II’s have a tendency to want to get their point across no matter how. Tenacity can be read about, in length, on Chapter 1 in their book. They will stop at nothing to make their point be heard and accepted. So let’s hope, Libra II, that you are monolingual, otherwise you could be drowning your lady in a sea of chatter in several languages! To make a long story short (not that I’m being very brief here), maybe you’re not giving your partner breathing room and she’s using the excuse of you not sticking around when it’s really her that’s having doubts about the two of you. But maybe if you stay up close to her and bring up your ten million points why you should stay together she might give in. After all, the human body needs a certain amount of oxygen to function properly, she might be sucking in way too much of your carbon monoxide, and eventually accept to stay with you partly thanks to the oxygen depravation you cornered her into. Your fourty something year old girlfriend has experience on her side and a bit more of a judicious astrological sign too. Plus, I’m sure she’s rewinding to the days when she was in her 20’s. Certainly back then she was contemplating the lovely assortment of ladies that were at her disposal, so she can only be sure that you will do the same sooner or later. It’s just a matter of time. She also knows that she could try to buy you off or entice you in ways Tauruses can. But she’s aware that money doesn’t buy you love in the end and eventually not even Botox will be able to keep the wrinkles away. Sure, right now you find her age lines cute and the grey hair sexy but is it going to turn you on when you go to Denny's and she gets a discount thanks to her years on Earth? Give these things some thought. Surely there is a chance that you can stay together. There have been plenty of May- December (in this case, an April- October) relationships that work out. But maybe, you should consider dating a few women that are closer to your age. If after spending some time with them you still think you want your older sweetheart ... she might still be around for the taking and may feel more at ease with your choice of wanting to be with her. For her peace of mind and mine's just answer this question: Do you know what an 8 track is? :)
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Q: | Madame Zoe D Ack: I am crazy about this young lady who was born April 15, 1982. I was born January 18th. Will this ever be a long lasting relationship or should I just move on? Thanks, Kim
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A: | The young lady you’re yearning for is an Aries III. Unlike some of the other Arieses she is more giving, less selfish and more congenial. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t have a strong personality. Therefore she gets along best with people that aren’t much into dominating and bossing others around. She is also very generous with her time and resources. Sometimes she can be taken for a ride thanks to her thoughtfulness and liberal provisions. Your birth date falls on the cusp of Capricorn Aquarius. You are a lively lady who’s on the go and is very good at firing others up with ideas and inspiration. Even a 2,500 year old Egyptian mummy gets upbeat when you're around. You do, however, have your good share of temper. You especially tend to have spontaneous combustions. And sometimes even those close to you find it hard to deal with your swinging spirits. You both have robust personalities. The good thing about this is that neither one of you will be able to trample the other because neither one of you is going to stand for it. On another upside... you won’t let hustlers, moochers or mendicants get on the soft side of your Aries III girl. Overall, if you both can practice taking turns on running the show and make sure to keep things balanced you can have a lasting relationship. After all, you’re both fairly independent ladies who are loyal and supportive of others so it’s safe to say that you will be interested in treating your woman with that same faithfulness and will want to confront the battles of life together. | ||||
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5/20/2006 | Q: | Madame Zoe D Ack: I have not had any luck with love. I come from an abusive family. I have been alone for awhile. I have had no luck. All my relationships have been abusive. I am lesbian. Will I find my mate soon? My birthday is April 17, 1955. Lodi
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A: | Hi Lodi: On April 17, 1955 the Sun and Mercury were both in Aries, the Moon in Aquarius and Venus in Pisces just to name a few of the planet alignments. You fall under the Aries III astrological sign. Generally speaking you are a kind soul. You possess the capacity to overtake difficult situations. So far in life you've felt like you’ve always been on the deep end of the pool, and you have, but life will offer you several buoys and vests along the way so that you can keep afloat and make it to a better place for yourself. There are several things you need to learn along the way... like being more patient with yourself and others. You have a tendency to get ‘itchy’ and want things to happen already and so many a times you don’t let things progress naturally. It could be that your impetuous nature can be at fault for some of the relationships you’ve been in. Also, you have to learn to value and love yourself. You have to discover the beauty within you so that you can share it with others. When you feel down and unworthy you get into relationships with people that are toxic to you but that, since you feel valueless, you think they're what you deserve. You need to ‘clean your mental house’. Sort out these past painful experiences from the past and scrub away on all those negative thoughts you have of yourself. Though there are many lessons in life that we are meant to live there are decisions that you can make. In other words, you are not destined to a loveless life or an existence filled with abuse. You have fallen into these patterns but you don’t have to forever ride on this road. As for finding a mate soon... again... the force of fate may lead you in a certain direction but it’s up to you to decide your outcomes. To find a loving mate that will respect you will need patience, strength of character, self love and wise decision making. If you’ve been surrounded with poisonous personalities and you continue to bond with them you’re bound to continue hooking up with the wrong people. If you persist on meeting ladies in the same places or social circles that you have in the past you might be setting yourself up for disappointment once more. Empower yourself with the weapons you need to be happy with and by yourself. Love will eventually come your way. Remember that love is full of faith but no love is so faithful as self-love. Your inner love begins to blossom when you water your soul. Don’t wait any longer. | |||
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