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6/19/2006 | Q: | Dear Mme Zoe D Ack: My girlfriend and I have been together for a while but things from the start have never been very steady. I sometimes think we’ll be together forever but then our relationship gets rocky and I start to wonder if we should go our separate ways. My birthday is November 20 and my girlfriend’s is December 13. How compatible are we? Justine
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Hi Justine: Your birthday falls under the Scorpio Sagittarius Cusp. Your girlfriend is a Sagittarius III. As a Scorpio Sagittarius Cusp girl you are a deeply emotional being who can be reserved (just as much as you can be outspoken) and a bit variable. You are also always under a constant self struggle. You hold high ideals for yourself, sometimes too much. This fear of not doing things flawlessly and the fact that you can never be ‘perfect’ frustrate you to no end. You not only have high expectations for yourself but for others too. You gather that because you try to do well that your partner will be on that same wavelength. Your girlfriend, being a Sagittarius as well, shares many traits in common with you, including complex emotions, giving, introvertedly insecure and that ever present feeling that Sagittarius women carry that makes them every once in a while wish they could be totally free. You two actually have a lot in common. So in many occassions the problem is that what you see ‘in the mirror’ is not to your liking. You shoot for perfection but when you see your girl slacking off or acting lackadaisical toward your dreams and aspirations disappointment sinks in, you throw in the towel and... you start to wonder if she’s the one for you. You understand each other well because you are so alike but that in return backfires. You both have to learn to be each other’s cheering squad. Do not rest on your laurels, critisizing your Sagittarius woman and expect her to get moving because she will just go lay besides you in your fluffy bed of flowers and quietly wait for your frustration to errupt. Finally, if you have to poke each other with spurs to get things moving then so be it. After all, your zodiac sign is a centaur- half human, half horse. Giddy up! | ||||
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Hi Mme Zoe D Ack, Love this site! What a wonderful service you provide by helping people:)! My Q is I haven't been in a real relationship in over 6 years. I seem to have a hard time meeting women that I have mutual interest, goals etc. I am a very outgoing person except when it comes to meeting someone I have an interest in. I was born Feb. 4Th 1966 at 10:13 am in Los Angeles, Ca. Any advice on astro signs of people to look for and places or events etc.? Looking forward to your advice! Thanks, K.L.
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Hi K.L. : You’re an Aquarius with moon in Leo.This shows that you don’t mind being the center of attention when you’re out with friends or in social gatherings. It also indicates that you can be torn when your intellectual side clashes with your charged up imagination. Do you go with what makes sense to you or do you follow your heart and take a chance even though you see all the red flags going up? You normally go with your practical side, not because you like it but because you fear falling flat on your face. You have a very attractive personality, however, some may get the impression you are by far the most perfectionist person they’ve ever met. It’s not that you’re so into details as you are scared of being wrong. You tend to be very passionate and caring, a mix that many admirers will find irresistible! While being a true blue friend who’s a romantic, you don’t spare any expense to thrill the girl you’re with. In fact, you tend to spoil your lovers and hold them dear even long after the relationship has ended. You’re willing to forgive and forget but if a friend or lover hurts your pride, you won’t hesitate to walk away and never look back. You say you don’t have trouble meeting women but that your problem is finding women that you have things in common. This is a simple and easy problem to fix. With all that’s available out there these days, bumping into a lady that shares your same passions is not as complicated or as time consuming as you might think. For example, if you’re into cerebral things, spend some time in internet forums discussing topics that ignite your interests. You're likely to find an intellectual lady in a forum about technology, politics, poetry or art. If you’re into New Age maybe you can find a bookstore in your area where you can sit, drink coffee and peruse some literature. Maybe there you can find a girl with your same interests. If you don't mind a little physical activity joining a yoga or pilates class might help you get to know some women.The choices are endless. And if by some chance you can’t find an activity that sparks your interest why not start a group yourself? All you need to do is join something you like, go to the activity and be open to meeting the ladies that come your way. Since you’ll be there because of a common interest you won’t have the awkwardness that is usually felt when you’re meeting with the sole purpose of getting hooked up. You also will know instantly that you have things in common because if she's there, she's there because she likes that activity. You’ll do best if you focus on things that are of interest to you and leave the part of ‘finding that special someone’ in the back burner. The best relationships are the ones that happen spontaneously. And be open too to making new friends and joining other social circles aside from the ones you're already in. You never know when a new made friend might introduce you to a great lady.
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Q: | I hope you can shed some light into my situation. I am a 29 y/o married woman with a son. Although I have a reasonably good sex life with my husband, but part of me tells me that I am missing something in this relationship. I have had few relationships with other girls prior to my marriage but controlled my temptations since then. However, I think I have come to a point of no return as I am head over heels in love with a beautiful, young girl at work. She too is married to a man but I have a strong feeling that she is sexually attracted to me as well. Please tell me whether I should follow my heart and enjoy something that I have been yearning for so many years or simply avoid her and regret once again for a missed opportunity. I really appreciate your help. Love, Dee | |||
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A: | Hi Dee, I am not qualified to give you the professional advice or orientation you seem to need. However, I sympathize with your current situation, which, by the way, is not as uncommon as you may think. This is a big step you are thinking of taking but you wouldn’t be the first to have an out of wedlock relationship (fling) with a woman and you are surely not going to be the last. However, life as you know it may change if anyone finds out. These are the risks one takes when married but curious to pursue a connection with someone else. So with that in mind, tread carefully and think long and hard before jumping into the pleasure pool, for sometimes one can slip and fall while doing a summersault and end up with a concussion. And that’s not particularly fun is it? I would suggest you think about the following issues a bit: Do I love my husband? Do I feel sexually satisfied with him? Do I find him sexually appealing? Do I feel happy being around him? Does he fulfill me in other areas outside of the bedroom? Can I take on the responsability of being on my own and with my son if divorce should come of this? Are these feelings for this woman mainly enticing me because of the taboo of it all? Besides the intrigue and fantasy of being with this woman, why do I like her? I'm I so in awe with her that I'm willing to change my life, my home and maybe even my friends? These questions are not meant to scare you nor guide you in one direction. They are meant to make you think about your feelings and what you want to do. Asking and answering these questions to yourself should give you an idea of how strong your feelings and mind are about this. You say you have “a reasonably well sex life with your husband” but feel as if there is something missing. Maybe you should seek counseling, perhaps your husband is giving you what you want in bed but not what you crave outside of the bedroom. If after this you still feel the same way or have no doubts that you have feelings for women (since you say you’ve had girlfriends before), this may mean that you’re bisexual (in which you owe it to yourself and your husband to have a heart to heart conversation about it). It’s easy for me or anyone else to tell you what you should do but the outcome of your action or lack of it will only affect you, your husband, son and this woman (who you're not yet sure is lesbian/bisexual) and her husband. So you’re the one who needs to consider all the angles. I can’t tell you what to do and your heart is already set on it. You seem as if you are just waiting for this girl to give you the okay to jump into (what you envision to be) a blissful romance. This would all be fine if only you didn’t have the little problem of being married. In the end you will do what you think is best. Will it make you happy? Will you be ok with sticking to this decision (whichever choice you make)? You’re old enough to know what you want and need. If you just want to have a fling here and there then that’s up to you and it’s no one else's business but yours. If by chance you just can’t let go of the thought of loving a woman and you are certain that you’re a woman loving worshipper then you should make a mature choice and tell your husband how you feel, get a divorce or get marriage counseling. Being that you are a working woman you have a bit of an easier choice in declaring your independence and moving on. Vive la difference! You have to really think about this and weigh in your feelings about taking a chance vs life as is. Life is about making choices and then facing up to the consequences. Only you have the answer. Good luck! | |||
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